Lakeisha just turned 16 and I thought I would write for her 44 pieces of wisdom for life:- 44 because I am 44.
So here they are:
- Read copious amounts of books and read widely
- Be incredibly enthusiastic
- Be a person who always shows gratitude
- Make new friends but cherish the old ones
- Never trade away your integrity
- In times of stress and pressure practice the duck principle – calm on top where everybody sees – but paddling like mad underneath
- It’s not how hard you can hit that matters, but how hard you can be hit and keep moving forward – that’s how winning is done
- Be incredibly loyal as a friend, wife, mother and leader
- Don’t live according to people’s expectations.
- Marry someone who you love talking to.
- Have a bucket list of 50 things you want to achieve in the next five years. Set a new one every five years.
- Commit to your marriage vows like your life depends on them. The grass is never greener on the other side. Grow green grass on your side:- its alot less painful.
- Read your bible every day
- Treat everyone you meet as if they have a sign around their neck that says – Make me feel very important.
- Burn the candles, use the nice sheets and cutlery: – don’t save stuff for a special day – today is special
- Even when you are all grown up – go and dance in the rain: don’t be too serious in life
- Too many people die with the music still in them: – live large, live wide and live loud. Don’t ever use the term “one day”. That’s a term people use who live in the grey twilight of mediocrity: if you want to do something, make a specific plan and make it happen
- Write down your goals and always think and dream big
- Have an outrageous prayer list
- Gambling is for fools as is alcohol.
- Never complain about growing old – it beats the alternative – I have known too many people who would have loved to be growing old but died young.
- When you get hurt and beat up in life – and you will – keep your heart sweet in the presence of God:- Ps 45:1 My heart overflows with a good theme – this is scripture I have lived by.
- Don’t waste time – Read the 80/20 rule – it will change your life
- When you have kids – make them feel special, give them your time, your attention, your money, your passion – give them the best of you and the world can have the left overs.
- Take a stupid amount of photos and videos of life, family and experiences.
- Always look after your parents and grandparents. Honouring your heritage shows wisdom and is a godly principle
- Go to church every Sunday
- Be an intentional parent
- Always give 10% of everything you earn to God and save another 10%
- Read Richest Man in Babylon and How to Win Friends and Influence People: Two of the most life impacting books I have read
- Never worry about standing out from the crowd. Stand out. Be confident. Go in your own direction
- Don’t be a person that gets all worked up over petty stuff. Keep the main things the main things.
- Don’t get a tattoo. What I would have written on my arm at 18 was very different to what I would have written on my arm when I was 30 and the same for when I was 44. Tattoos are for people who don’t think long term.
- Live a life without regrets:- as much as you can. Take risks; have your life peppered with failures because you simply had a go. Failure is not necessarily a bad thing
- When you are emotionally upset and charged up for a fight – put 48 hours between that feeling and the response – you will find that its a very different response
- Cheap Motels aren’t worth a poor nights sleep in a bed with dirty sheets and pubes on the soap: always stay in a nice motel.
- Value post school study.
- Never say I love you – unless you mean it.
- Hand written encouragement letters are a power few people understand: write lots of them and it will change your life.
- Travel the world and experience the richness of other cultures, other people and other food.
- Always own a pet – they will love you unconditionally and keep you grounded. Never make the pet a cat though – they are just stupid and arrogant
- Be ok with spending time alone. Enjoy the serenity.
- Understand the power of Kindness and be a person known for being exceptionally kind.
- Take advice from your Dad. In 44 years he has done alot, travelled alot, read alot and met alot of people – what he is saying humbly is – maybe he knows alot and is sharing that wisdom with you.
Categories: Australian, Life
Happy, happy birthday Lakeisha. A very happy life to you. Kind regards from Stewart + Ronda Aiken.
P.S.: Can you ask you dad what the 80/20 rule is and tell us next time we meet. 🙂
There is a book called the 80/20 rule. Its brilliant.
This made my eyes leak…. Wonderful father-ing here… Your very blessed Lakeisha… Hope your 16th year is one of your best…
every point right on the mark 🙂 i especially like no’s 1, 5, 8, 12 (which me n my hubby live by) 13, 15, 17 awwww heck i love them all 🙂 hope you don’t mind if i share this 🙂
Printing this out not only for myself but for my children too
You are a very inspiring writter….Never stop